One of the mysterious, strange and dangerous part of human psychology that I ever came across is this-
A person likes some quality of another person, say for example some artistic talent, n starts loving that person. For the purpose of this post, let me assume that they both belong to opposite gender. There isn't any need to specify who belongs to which gender, it doesn't make any difference.
The first person approaches the other gradually and one day they both agree to be in a relationship, a friendship, love or whatever.. Then they both develop a feeling that they belong to each other, a sense of possessiveness begins to develop. Days pass on.. If second person continues his practice or profession like he was doing before, the former feels he/she isn't getting time to spend with him, starts asking him to spend more and more time with him/her. Not being able to deny, the second person starts spending time with the first, he gradually happens to give lesser time for his hobby/talent/profession. Very soon his talent gets buried deep inside and he finally ends up with forgetting his qualities..
The actual problem isn't that. Once the entry of former makes changes in the lifestyle of the latter, and he becomes unable to be like how he was before, the former starts feeling that he has changed a lot.. Of course, he is not wrong.. Gradually, the latter won't be an interesting person to him anymore, he goes away psychologically, complaining that HE ISN'T LIKE HOW HE WAS.. Now the second person can neither be like before and live with his talent, nor he can be with the first. He becomes lonely..
This is actually notable with 'qualities of a person' than a particular 'talent' or 'profession'.. Entry of a person into the "personal space" of the other, usually makes changes in the other person.. Then we have no moral right to blame that the person has changed.. Even after being a part of such a relationship, if a person didn't change, then it may mean he isn't involved seriously..
I have few questions- when will we learn to love people "as they are"? When will we learn that each organism in this universe has independent emotions and "personal space"?
It isn't better than captivating the animals in the zoo, where the animal loses its natural behavior..
A person likes some quality of another person, say for example some artistic talent, n starts loving that person. For the purpose of this post, let me assume that they both belong to opposite gender. There isn't any need to specify who belongs to which gender, it doesn't make any difference.
The first person approaches the other gradually and one day they both agree to be in a relationship, a friendship, love or whatever.. Then they both develop a feeling that they belong to each other, a sense of possessiveness begins to develop. Days pass on.. If second person continues his practice or profession like he was doing before, the former feels he/she isn't getting time to spend with him, starts asking him to spend more and more time with him/her. Not being able to deny, the second person starts spending time with the first, he gradually happens to give lesser time for his hobby/talent/profession. Very soon his talent gets buried deep inside and he finally ends up with forgetting his qualities..
The actual problem isn't that. Once the entry of former makes changes in the lifestyle of the latter, and he becomes unable to be like how he was before, the former starts feeling that he has changed a lot.. Of course, he is not wrong.. Gradually, the latter won't be an interesting person to him anymore, he goes away psychologically, complaining that HE ISN'T LIKE HOW HE WAS.. Now the second person can neither be like before and live with his talent, nor he can be with the first. He becomes lonely..
This is actually notable with 'qualities of a person' than a particular 'talent' or 'profession'.. Entry of a person into the "personal space" of the other, usually makes changes in the other person.. Then we have no moral right to blame that the person has changed.. Even after being a part of such a relationship, if a person didn't change, then it may mean he isn't involved seriously..
I have few questions- when will we learn to love people "as they are"? When will we learn that each organism in this universe has independent emotions and "personal space"?
It isn't better than captivating the animals in the zoo, where the animal loses its natural behavior..
